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Hello dear blog readers! Patterned thinking creates barriers to success. It does not allow the personality to open up completely and express itself. And all because instead of listening to herself and her desires, she acts, focusing on the desires of society, parents, friends, teachers and everyone who comes across her path. Often we do not even notice, and are not even able to distinguish which idea is imposed, and which one is really our own, true.
Consequences of pattern thinking
Recognition and acceptance, love are among the natural human needs. They may not be basic, but they are important enough. Therefore, there are no people who really sincerely do not care if they are valuable to someone or not. We are social, and without communication, recognition, we can not only get sick, but also die. Here are the origins of pattern development. A person strives to earn attention, to be liked, if not by everyone, but at least by those people who are significant to him. And then he tries to meet their expectations, adapts to them and their desires, ignoring himself.
For example, parents can give their children a message, even unconsciously, that they will be loved if they take up their studies and correct their behavior. Love the soup and healthy vegetables. Teachers will appreciate and notice, highlight if they study well. The family will be happy and real if you never quarrel … And this is possible only if people are indifferent to each other.
In general, these attitudes not only limit behavior, but also provoke the development of conformity. That is, when a person is afraid to express himself and defend his opinion, especially if it differs from the opinion of the majority. You can learn more about conformity and how to get rid of the fear of rejection by clicking on this link.
And everything would be fine, but in addition to the fact that the world is losing geniuses who do not believe in themselves and hide their talents, stereotyped leads to neurosis and depression. Sometimes there is even a splitting of the personality, which is required, on the one hand, to be bright, independent, with leadership inclinations, and at the same time, on the other hand, to be comfortable and not annoying. As you understand, this is impossible. But a person demands from himself, leading to an intrapersonal conflict.
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Work on self-esteem
This will help to become more stable so as not to fall into a sacrificial position. It is not necessary to show willpower and so on, it is important to accept yourself as you are. Learn your character traits and do not demand the impossible. The surrounding people are interesting because they are different. Creative individuals seem unique and special. But our difference with them is that they let go of control and allowed themselves to be natural, despite the judgment and opinion of others.
Focusing on yourself and your desires is very important. Because no one will live your life except you. Therefore, you should work where you like, even if it does not coincide with the expectations of your wife or parents. Rest in such a way as to restore resources and have fun, and not maintain the status of a person with an active position, for example, and drive yourself to parties, trainings, exhibitions and so on every weekend.
And in order to allow yourself to be the way you are, the first thing you need to do is to love yourself. Then a place under the sun will quickly be found. If you do not know where to start, you can read the article, which is located here.
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Have you seen the movie «Always Say Yes» with Jimm Carrey? The protagonist decided to change something in his life, because depression and routine consumed him so much that nothing pleased him at all. He simply stopped refusing, no matter what offers he received. And do not believe it, but he not only managed to bring drive, but also succeed.
We do not recommend doing so drastically, you never know who and what comes into their heads. But forgetting about such phrases as “I can’t succeed”, “I can’t do this”, “it’s pointless” is worth it. After all, the main principle of non-standard is to act not as usual, but in a new way. The psychology of a person is such that he is able to accomplish the impossible, if he only believes that everything will work out for him. Any restrictions are only in our head.
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Remember what you were like as a child? Yes, children are different, but most like to experiment, because otherwise how to know the world, in addition to asking endless questions to parents? It is for this reason that someone took apart the radio, cars, dolls and teddy bears. To find out how everything works there. Then, as we grow up, we slow down impulses of curiosity, even in those places where it is required.
If there is no desire to learn something new, or to acquire a hobby, you can just go to a restaurant that you have not visited before. Take a walk through an unfamiliar area if it is not possible to go at least to the neighboring region on an excursion. As a last resort, just change your usual route to work. Your brain instantly activates, which is exactly what is needed to change even the slightest way of thinking.
Expand your horizons, so you will always be in good shape. Agree, it’s not difficult to devote 5 minutes a day to learning something new, right? Even if it is just one foreign word. In a year, with such a minimum regimen, you will be able to significantly replenish your vocabulary.
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Solve puzzles and puzzles that are aimed at developing the right hemisphere of the brain. It is responsible for our creative part of personality, speech and even intuition, the ability to «understand» people.
Listen to classical music, watch humorous shows, do yoga, after all. Sports and humor have a positive effect on our mental abilities and help to change the way we think.
You will find examples of interesting and exciting tasks if you follow this link.
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Be sure to train your brain, especially with non-standard tasks. In my opinion, this task is best handled here is the service. There you will find a lot of online simulators for developing your brain.
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Allow yourself to open up, show the world the talents that everyone must have. It’s just that not everyone is able to listen to their own desires and aspirations, as well as follow the interest in order to be realized and create. So, good luck and success to you!
Материалды психолог, гештальт-терапевт Журавина Алина даярдаган.